February 22, 2012
My Dearest Samantha,
Here are a few things you need to get straight. You are a loving being, and humble enough. Don’t pray for any more humility, please, because you already know where that gets you. Take your husband’s advice, and ask for more pride, for goodness sake!
And don’t eat frozen carrot cake by the fork-full when you’re stressed out; it’s not good for the system, or that spare tire you’ve got going around your waist. Thanks to you, we’ve got this non-stop, hacking cough, because YOU shoveled the cake so fast a nut scratched your throat. Thirty minutes later, after a cough suppressant, Benadryl, and cough drop, you’re still coughing. And so loudly, you’ve concerned the youngest lad. And you don’t even like carrot cake. You only like the frosting. What’s up with that?
What’s going on, anyhow? You know what I’m talking about. Where’s that go-getter who wouldn’t let the world stop her? The lady, who taught, counseled, advocated, and even woke up early to meditate? Where is she?
Somehow, when I wasn’t looking, you’ve latched on to this Aspergers gig like there’s no tomorrow. By the way, I read your post from a few days ago, and I don’t talk that much during most movies, just the boring romantic comedies with no plot worth following.
Come on Girl, I’m dying in here watching you beat yourself all up. And who cares about the professor not recognizing your writing ability and knocking you down points, because you didn’t follow her rules to the exact. That’s life.
You can’t always earn full points in life. Isn’t that what you always tell Joe—to not let what others’ think bother him. But here you are worrying all the time that you’re not enough. Get with it, already. You are already enough, and so much more.
Pull out the prayers and poetry you use for inspiration. Reread some of the plethora of spiritual and religious books you’ve collected. Stop focusing on only one genre: That of poor little old Sam and Aspergers. You’re creating more clutter in that brain of yours than you need.
Yes, you can write a post like this. Who fricken cares? If this is the only post they read, and they think your nuts, so be it. I might wear those tight sweaters with the LV monogram, but I’ve got enough of Brain for the both of us. So let me take the lead awhile, would you?
Stop trying to control life and just ease up and relax. Just because you don’t think you can, doesn’t mean you can’t. You aren’t even trying. You’ve got all you need around you, and more, but still you wallow in self-pity. This isn’t thirty years ago. You don’t need to be sad anymore. This is life—right now, this day, this moment, seize it.
Get that pedicure! See that movie. Have that tea with a friend. Stop hiding in your house. Blast the music. Open the windows. Let the fresh air in. Bang pots and pans. Light incense. Scream. Shout. Cheer. Do whatever it takes to break out of this funk.
Yes, Scooby’s dead. Yes, you have to retrieve his ashes. Yes, sometimes college totally sucks, and your fixations seemingly suck you dry. But you know what, you are the one who has a choice. You always have the glorious choice. Continue to sit on your rump and feel sorry for yourself, or get up and get moving. I don’t care how far or where. Just take a step in any direction.
I know this is harsh, but harsh is what you need right now. I know what’s best, and I see what you’ve been doing. Enough already. Get back to where you were. Nothing has changed that drastically. If you must, keep mourning the loss of Scoob. But please stop mourning the loss of you! You’re still here. You’re still you. Even when others don’t see, you’ll always be you.
Here’s a poem to keep handy. Now get of your butt and start skating! The world’s waiting.
Your Friend for Life,
LV (the Little Voice inside my head)
Life is Like a Roller Rink (February 2012)
Life is like a roller rink.
We each groove and glide to our own beat.
We slow down, speed up, and then slow down again, taking the turns as they come.
Though others may knock us down, run us over, or push us out-of-the-way, we get back up eventually, and keep moving.
We glide forward and sideways, and every once in a while find ourselves going backwards.
After twirling too fast for too long, we laugh; we cry.
We hold hands to keep our balance.
In moments of bravery, we speed out to the inner circle, keeping our pace in the fast lane.
In moments of caution, we remain on the outer circle, gripping the wall for dear life.
Sometimes another gently pulls us off the wall.
We get blisters and bruises.
We ram into others, stop and apologize, and then lend a hand.
We tangle up our feet and fall on our butts. Some of us have more grace, some of us more padding.
If we aren’t careful, when we try to pull others up, we fall down right with them.
From the sideline, we observe those gliding by, wondering how they do the things they do, or questioning if we might, someday, do the same thing.
We sweat. We stink.
Sometimes we trade in the skates that served us well, in hopes of discovering a better fit or style.
There are speeders who don’t pay attention to anyone else, until they collide into someone, or collapse from exhaustion.
Racing ahead, we partake in games, in hopes of a prize.
Some are left behind.
While many never seem to catch up.
We feel the wind in our faces and the rush of adrenaline.
We are surrounded by lights that illuminate our way.
Some spin and do tricks, in hopes of gaining attention.
Somewhere, up high in a box is a person in charge. We may make a request or keep moving without second thought.
We don’t take much notice that we are going round and round, only to end up right back where we started.
When we rest, regroup, and nurse our injuries, there is nothing that can stop us from getting back on our feet, and starting the circular journey, all over again.
And in the end, when the music inevitably stops, we all must leave.
By Everyday Asperger’s Blog author, Samantha Craft