This is tailored to adults who were diagnosed with Aspergers, but the list can apply to many ages and many conditions other than Aspergers Syndrome.
20 Things Not to Say to a Person on the Autism Spectrum
1. Everyone feels like that sometimes.
2. Everything happens for a reason.
3. You’re fine. They have too many labels nowadays.
4. That reminds me of me. I wonder if I have that too.
5. Things could always be worse.
6. At least you don’t have autism.
7. Don’t worry. Be happy. Think Positive.
8. That’s no big deal.
9. You’re too serious. Get out of your head and help others.
10. Everyone has problems. Stop analyzing yours.
11. I never would have guessed. You seem so normal.
12. Are you sure? Maybe you need a second opinion.
13. Why do you think that?
14. That’s weird. Good luck.
15. Aren’t you glad you found out?
16. That’s so trendy. Everyone thinks they have that.
17. Did you get an “official” diagnosis?
18. I’m uncomfortable with people classifying themselves by a diagnosis.
19. My cousin’s neighbor has Aspergers.
20. Well, now that you know, stop focusing on it, and get on with your life.
15 Beneficial Approaches
1. Offer a warm smile and nod. Listen and comprehend.
2. I’m on your side. I’m here for you. You are not alone. I am here to stay.
3. Where can I find more information?
4. You are a strong person. I love you for being you.
5. Make a friendly call or send a friendly text or email.
6. What can I do? Tell me specifically. I want to help anyway I can.
7. Ask the person on a long walk, a picnic, or other excursion.
8. Hold a space for processing what that means to the person.
9. Do you need my support? How can I support you specifically?
10. Go to a matinee or rent a movie about autism or Aspergers.
11. Sincerely compliment the person.
12. Validate. This is a big deal!
13. Read personal accounts about living on the autism spectrum.
14. Thank you for confiding in me and trusting me. I am honored to know you.
15. If you are comfortable, can you tell me more about your experience?
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