I process everything. I am a processing machine. I even process the process of writing. Today I feel ‘guilty’ for yesterday’s writing, as it didn’t represent the ‘true’ me. Even as I search for the ‘truth’ of who I am, stumbling again into myself and not knowing where I fall, I somehow still manage to pinpoint who I am not. It’s strange, even to write. But seems to be the way of it. All so complex and bothersome. Like most days, I wish I was rather emptied of myself.
Yesterday my post ended with freedom, with the removal of ‘self’ and judgment, with the capacity to move into this world unseen and to be okay with that. Yesterday that was a true statement. Today it’s not.
I didn’t lie. I meant what I said. I was in a brief over-confident mood. I was in an I-will-will-myself-all-better-state. I get that way from time-to-time. I wouldn’t call me hopeful or resilient or ‘positive’ during these moments of zealous confidence. More so, underneath my skin somewhere, when I approach my writing with such voice, I am a bit perturbed at life in general. I guess you could say I was sporting an under coating of frustration and trying to paint over myself with some form of strength.
I tend to only feel good about the words I have scribed that provoke a soft appeal and gentleness. I tend to be attracted to my sharings which display an intense vulnerability and a vast uncloaking of self. Yesterday’s post wasn’t one of those posts.
I am not ashamed of the writing, and not regretting it, just, I guess, wondering how I can so easily shift and transform. It’s unsettling to say the least, when the person I was a moment ago isn’t the person I am now. Perhaps, I say in jest, I have some advanced multiple personality disorder in which I am both congealed and disjointed all at once with legions of aspects of self bursting into bits and pieces of everything.
Yesterday, I was PMSing. I ‘suffer’ from PMDD, endometriosis, and an autonomic blood pressure condition (closely related to POTS), as well as hyperjoint mobility syndrome, each of which are triggered by fluctuations in hormones. PMDD is enough in and of itself to drive me batty, but the physical pain sometimes leads to a week of being couch bound. This has been an on going event for most of my adult life. It’s not new, and it’s not strange or unknown. But somehow the debilitation is still rather scary and depressing, particularly, as I was hospitalized about a year ago from an extreme episode. Anyhow, I really don’t want sympathy or to rant or complain, just to explain.
I suppose in moments of couch-bound, sloth-mode, semi-hibernation, I get particularly prolific in my writing. One reason being that there is really nothing else I can physically do, beyond playing computer games, watching movies, and reading, oh, and the occasional romp to the kitchen to binge eat. Having the capacity to write during these hormonal nightmares most certainly brings me a sense of purpose. Also, I think the hormones, or what-have-yous, affect my thinking, in that I have more thoughts and that I am more vulnerable to outpourings. And too, to be totally truthful, sometimes I write during my PMDD only because if someone reads my words I will feel less isolated.
I force myself to write during these times, not because I have to, but because I want to. And that is the primary difference in the particular self-focused writings (like today’s and yesterday’s) versus the majority of my writing.
Most of the time, believe it or not, I don’t want to write, but feel driven to write. Usually, I don’t hear my own singular voice, but more of a collective gathering of thoughts. I have surmised, after continual coincidences, that I somehow tap into the collective Aspie condition. As silly as that sounds, this has been my truth for the span of over a year. It appears Aspies jump into my brain and stir me up. As much as they’d like to believe I am reading their minds, I tend to think they are invading my thoughts—little hitchhikers whispering. Or, rather, we are all just splashing is some giant heated pool of knowledge, and I, by some odd twist of faith, have been granted the capacity to spurt out what we are swimming in.
When I write, I see images and sense words. I don’t actually hear anything. There isn’t a voice I can describe or even an intonation. There is more of a feeling of what I believe is a type of communication I don’t readily recognize as familiar. There is no emotion beyond love. And an easiness and comfort exits without effort. There isn’t a questioning of what I wrote or a judging. There often isn’t much editing involved. It just kind of IS. And I like that.
The process of writing in most cases takes away some of my Aspie thoughts—those perpetual queries that ransack my brain.
I believe the intention behind ‘my’ words creates the overall feel of the work. Much like a painting, my heart is reflected in the renderings. If my intention is to share and nothing more than the words are light and airy, filled with a sense of hope. In this manner there is a radiating wellbeing resonating from the writings. A knowing everything will be okay. A connection, a reaching out, a holding and a holding ground, in which travelers come and visit, and find a place of respite.
I miss that peaceful flow, that rescuing-retreat. I missed it yesterday. I miss it today. I guess I’d rather be part of a collective than this ME. I’d rather sit with a gathering of us than alone—a gallant and worthy longing, indeed.
13 thoughts on “516: A Gallant Longing”
I completely get every word of this. 100 percent. I approach writing the same and go through similar seasons and monthly changes…Damn PMDD too! Seriously though, it is a very similar cycle for me…Love that you thought to write about it…
love that you get it! Yay, we aren’t alone Much love. Always appreciate your presence and energy. PMDD be gone! x
As long as you continue getting back up Samantha . . . you are achieving remarkable things for yourself and others. I have what you have and you give me the gift of your examples of achievement. We lift up each other!
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thanks much 🙂 Yes, I do and I will 🙂 Peace to you
It is a very bumpy ride but we do have each other and your posts keep me going Sam. X
thanks so much. Yes we have one another :)))
Your words are necessary.
I needed that, thank you
Can I just share with you that I got a diagnosis this morning. I feel very strange and relieved too. That means for 50 plus years I have been living with this condition and never knew there were others out there or that is how Aspergers manifests. I was completely ignorant about autism in general.
Thank you Sam. It was reading your blog and about your brain process that made me realise – yes this is it, this is how I have felt my entire life!
Keep up with the awesome writing Sam. X
thank you so very much. You made my day :)))))
I feel so very blessed to have found you. You have words to express. I have no words – I’m frozen
I loved this so much! For the first time I knew that I wasn’t crazy, that I was hearing others too, maybe even you. They send me messages that lead me down a trail that come out into a picture that I have painted either on canvas or on paper. I am most often surprised to see it and so delighted to find the message. I can see now that maybe there is a reason for why I go through these strange cycles of intense creative activity and then paralyzed, leaden, cotton wool brained self that either eats nothing nor drinks anything or binges on sweets and carbs. suddenly in an effort to not fall over. Now that I have this piece of information I feel as if I can rest easier and listen happier. I definitely don’t feel as alone! Happy face. 🙂
you sound like me. thank you for sharing 🙂