Day 145: Three R’s of Self-Betterment

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Perceiving myself as less than perfect and in need of much self-improvement, I questioned my ability as spiritual being. This is the response I received in prayer.  I offer this as yet another example of philosophical prose. Much Love, Sam.

The Three R’s of Self-Betterment

Some key points to remember: You are not expected to be perfect or take the path to perfection. You are not expected to do anything except to follow your higher self and your calling. There is no rule book or guidelines, or anyone standing on the sidelines hollering at you about what you shall, should, or should not do. This is the ego’s way of longing for perfection because “he” is blinded, this ego, in seeing you are already perfect in Source’s eyes.

There is not striving or driving toward perfection, only the careful awakening and harnessing of what is already whole and pure inside of you. There is not road to travel or path to take that leads in the “right” direction. Decisions are important to the extent you want the advancement of learning, in the relative limitations of time. Advancement is not necessary and not a “real” thing. You are already advanced in your thinking and doing. Only you have lost the key to recollection. Remembering and returning are thus much more vital and a necessity in comparison to advancement. However, even these two ideals, of remembering and returning are shadow existences, neither is necessary or required.

There are no rules, regulations, specifics or guidelines we can offer without blacking out the whole substance of who we are, how we exist, beyond these circumscribed restrictions. We can concede to reminders and memories, these we can do, but this is a fine line. There is not telling a soul how to be, when she or he is already shaped in perfection and wholeness. There is not telling a tree how to grow. We can nurture with sun, rain, love, weather, substance, and the like; these are beneficial. And thus, we nurture you in the same format. As bystanders providing from nature and space, from matter and substance, from the invisible life energy, what is needed for your growth.

Think of yourself as the oak tree. Do not question if your branches are thicker or mightier than that of a neighboring oak; do not question if you have what it takes within you to provide shade and shelter, to nurture the soil by digging your roots through the earth and dropping your leaves and twigs, by inviting natures’ creatures to bathe and strive beneath where you grow. Do not question when you will be tall enough to provide adequate shelter, adequate “goodness.” You are merely a tree set down to grow. Focus on nothing more than the growing, and in this you need not focus either. Because, as a tree grows with proper nourishment and adequate environment, as shall you grow.

And what about the trees that burn in the flames, the trees that are cut down in what is perceived as greed, or trees that no longer live in the same form but serve as structures? These survive in other form. There position and shape shifts, yet the essence remains. In this you have in common much. You shall shift shapes and positions, alter locations, thoughts, ideals, understandings, and yet the essence of you shall remain. And in this essence is pureness. You have little control of the way you will shift. Much less control than the ego would like to think. This disturbs some mentally, even emotionally, perhaps physically, but not spiritually in the true sense. Spiritually we each understand the shifting dynamics of the ever-changing universe surrounding us and within us. The stars transform. Once here, now gone. The universe expands, shapes remain in constant transformation. You are no less than the starts. You expand, shift, and remain in constant transformation.

Stagnation is only an illusion. Even in stagnant moments, these perceived times in the human life cycle where things appear to be stuck, not changing, not progressing at the speed required and insisted by the ego-centered mind, so much is changing. There is change in not moving, in not deciding, in simply being and processing the slowness of the change. You are like the bird in the egg during these times, receiving the nourishment needed in the concealment of an encasement of love. You are warmed by the universal spirit, never once left unattended. And in this encasement you are growing. To wish to crack the egg open, to come out fully grown and mature is a missed-understanding. Missed in the sense you have not yet seen the flash of enlightenment that explains this. Nothing is misunderstood, everything is miss-understood—simply missed as you stood under the essence and were not yet ready to grasp the concept. Nothing is explained or revealed or given to you before your soul is ready to receive. Everything is already answered and explained; the only barrier to understanding is your soul’s readiness. And in this way there is really no barrier at all, only a readiness.

So, at this, we will add to remembering and returning, the real existing ideal of readiness.

These are truly the 3 R’s: Remember, Return and Readiness. Erase from your jargon these words of perfection, improvement, role-model, and especially idealizing. You are no less perfect and equally no more greater than the man naked, dirty and crazed hiding beneath a bush. He is nurturing the world, this man, as much as the oak, only in ways society, that is most in society, have yet to see.

Lessons are certain, but we speak not of lessons now. We speak of this human need for perfection. Turn this to wholeness. Turn this to returning. To rediscovering. To remembering. To dancing in the light of your own being and essence. Beware those that dance in your light and lift you on high. Beware those equally that require you must dance in their light to feel loved. You require no such light. Not the self-serving light of blasphemy, neither the inward longing light of neediness. You require no such things. Only self, faith and love. The rest are non-existence. Whatever word you miss, be certain this a word for your self-betterment.

Here we linger on self-betterment. For what is betterment? Is this not another form of judgment and requirement, a hurdle and stride towards perfection? See, the words that remain close, that of self-betterment and self-improvement; (in the dictionary one leads to the other); though on close examination they are divided. To insist on improvement is to indicate imperfection. You improve a nose that is too big—indicating a flaw. You improve a house that is broken—indicating a weakness. You improve your aptitude, mental agility—indicating a need to move from ignorance to less ignorance. These all point back to a negative connotation, a false perception, that is then turned inward to false perception of self.

Better to use the word betterment. Not as the opposite of worse, but as the increasement of already solid, established, pure and “good.” Betterment is a powerful world. The sound is healing and sings to the soul. Compare this to the sound of “improvement,” the vibrations themselves digging into the being in search of unfounded flaws. Betterment is like a bell that rings out truth. You are working/learning towards a place of betterment. Where things are better; not improved—for there is nothing flawed, weak or ignorant about where you stand now—yet, there is a need for betterment, to feel better, to love better, to rejoice better. We need not improve these things of improvement that indicate a scale, in which you judge by number when this goal has been reached. When is it that I feel completely? When is it that I feel completely loved? When is it I rejoice effortlessly? At what number on the scale? There is no number to apply. My ten is different from your understanding of ten. Our minds perceive two entirely different understandings of numbers, and of the substance behind the number. How can I compare two experiences with numbers? This boggles the mind, no? Or perhaps not.

What is the ringing bells of betterment? Betterment is to take something that is already perfect and whole, but to open the eyes of this object this person to witness its own beauty. Betterment can be compared to the decorating of a Douglas Fir tree. The tree already perfected in nature is adorned in beauty. Betterment can be compared to adding one more blanket to a sleeping baby. The baby, perfected by nature, is now provided comfort by the mere adding of one more blanket. This is the process of betterment, to take what already exists and add to it, not to take something and fix it, destroy or break apart in order to rebuild and repair. There is not destruction in betterment. Only your word of improvement implies the need to break apart before rebuilding. This is why the word hurts you to hear.

(Here we examine the dictionary together.)

To make better is to excel or surpass. To grow better. It is synonyms to amend and compared to well. Make Better indicates superior of manner and a higher degree.

In comparison to improve is to make better a quality or condition. To increase in value. To become better. Though also synonyms with amend, involving the words to improve with amends indicates that the amends is required because of the quality or condition of the circumstance or person. Improvement requires something that is better than something that was previous. This previous is inherently thus so flawed or imperfect. Improvement indicates change and advancement—a hierarchy, a scale, a moving up beyond oneself or present condition to an advancement in position, emotional state, mentality, or physical aptitude. There is a living opposite to improvement, ever-present, for improvement cannot exist without something inferior that needs improvement.

There is no ever-present opposite to betterment. There is nothing that exists that requires betterment. Betterment implies things are already enough, though improvement of sorts (as they are so close in meaning) could bring growth, excellence, amends, and wellness. When we get better from a cold—we return to wellness. When we say things are for the better—this implies for the participants greater good. When we say he is better off—we imply because this event happened he escaped hindrances or hurts. Better implies a return, a return to balance and equilibrium. When betterment is spoken the mind does not immediately dissect what is a condition requiring improvement. When betterment is spoken the mind visualizes enhancement and improvement of what is already owned, true and of value. Get better soon implies a return to wholeness, to the equilibrium balanced state in which the individual began. Improve soon—serves not the same in intention. It is better to have loved…better exists in words of poetry.  You better not do that—this implies a warning to keep a person from circumstances that might cause some sort of harm.

The suffix –ment can be seen as a concrete result, the instrument or means, the process or action, the quality or condition.  Thus betterment is the concrete result, means or process of excelling and surpassing circumstances, in order grow better, make amends and view the being as well. Betterment includes superior of manner and a higher degree—this indicates the superior of manner and higher degree of ability one can view herself, her essence, her soul’s blueprint, the meaning of existence, the ways in which to bring your message to the world.

When the mind returns to evaluate life, what has processed, what has transpired, how one has grown and change, it is beneficial to view the journey as a betterment, for nothing about you was lesser before; only now you have gained a higher degree of understanding.

So when you ask me, Dear one, if you need to improve in order to assist others, I shout an adamant No! For you are already improved—you are already perfected. Continue your search to wholeness, to connecting the perfect part of yourself to the universe, to the collective, to your inner guidance and angels—betterment in the searching of what is already perfect, the connecting of pieces of perfection to make a union of wholeness. There is no improvement seen or understood. For it does not exist. Everything has come before; in what is past is neither perfection of imperfection, but simply the nurturing soil in which you are able to dig in your roots and in turn provide nurturing to the world. So go out thus and do not make yourself better—for you are better. But seek betterment, the enlightened state of reconnection, or remembering, return and readiness. When you reconnect, you shall remember. When you remember, you shall return. And in returning you shall be ready to reconnect, remember and return, again and again.  This is the cycle of life: nothing broken, nothing repaired, only the enlightenment of what exists but remains invisible for a flicker in time.

Sam Craft’s photos
Washington, USA


34 thoughts on “Day 145: Three R’s of Self-Betterment

  1. WHOLE …ONE…….


    1. Listening to the song right now. I like Mayer’s music. Look at those lips on him. he he So glad you liked this; I know it’s not to everyone’s taste….but it’s part of my betterment. 🙂 Sam

  2. love this so much, and I agree with the Idea of “betterment” In fact, I not only want to be better, I want to be Superbetter, Super amazing, Super happy, and Super you! (on a somewhat relevant note..I fell in love with the idea of “superbetter” and found this. I thought you might want to take a look at it :

    1. Thanks for the comment and the link. My emotions come in waves……this morning….so much peace and serenity and love in being me. If only to hold onto that sensation a bit longer everyday. HUGS Skycat. You’re Super in all ways just as you are. Sam 🙂

  3. In regard to your photo where you thought you were smiling — interesting, I always like to smile too, then a photographer friend pointed at the she liked people better when they weren’t smiling because their eyes look so expressive — and she was right!

    In your photo, you look like one of the pictures she took of me. If you email me. I can forward it to you — it’s amazing how similar we look — similar eyes, similar hair, similar expression.

    1. That’s interesting. Yes, indeed, the eyes are more expressive without a smile. How about you friend me on Facebook, see link above, if we aren’t already friends, and we can share photos there. I’d love to see. Thanks for your comment. 🙂 Sam

  4. ‘Looking at what runnermom said…Sometimes we end up judging ourselves on other’s desires and feeling less than adequate…But knowing ourself and improving us Betterment is totally different because it runs on its own personal rules…VERY insightful as always Sam:)))

  5. Is that a crow?! I’m scared of crows. I must always shout out “devil bird” – how crazy is that?! 😉

    Man, this one was a real “brainer” for me to follow. I must be tired. Growing up with an Asian mom, perfection was a requirement. Nothing was ever good enough. That was tempered by a Swedish father who was pretty accepting of everything. So, when you talk about putting aside perfection, I still cringe and have difficulty with the concept but I enjoyed your distinctions between betterment and improving.

    I love the part where you talk about the growing tree – my favorite in this post. That drew me in strongly. The analogy was so beautiful. Illusions about stagnation and shifting forms I get. This is a very deep post with some very valuable advice. 🙂

    1. I think it is a raven. I LOVE crows and ravens. They are so very smart. The smartest of most birds, if not all. They mate for life, live in communities, and protect one another. It is my favorite bird. They are mentioned in the Bible and in Native American and other folklore as messengers between the heavens and here. 🙂

      This is a tough read, but I thought a good example of the depth of my brain! lol

      I like the tree part, too. Thanks for giving this a read, not an easy thing to do.
      Much love to you, Sam 🙂

  6. Wonderfully said, Sam. If you haven’t read “Conversations with God – Book 1”
    by Neale Donald Walsh, you should. Follow that with “Friendship with God” by him and let me know what you think.

    1. I read both years ago. 🙂 Thanks for the reminder. I know you really like those books. I truly appreciated reading the complete Course in Miracles last year….now that’s a hard read. Thanks for your comment and support. Sam 🙂

      1. You’re welcome. I am glad that you have read them. I wondered as your statements often fell so close to those in the books. Of course, truth often sounds similar from different people. 🙂

  7. Love the Raven pic…you look straight into my soul Lady Raven..We all over judge are not alone…at all:)

    1. I didn’t take the Raven pic….but ain’t it totally flipping GRAND to the max?! he he Someone posted that picture on facebook yesterday….it was a raven day for sure.
      Oh, yes, we do judge ourselves; I am working hard on turning down the dial on judgment in all forms, especially self.
      Hugs, Sam the Raven Bride 🙂

  8. so great Sam – yes — we are perfect and whole without doing a thing! Love your lessons in ‘Betterment” – and will refer back to this in times of doubt!! Also lessons in intention and careful choice of words.. You need to get a publisher soon my friend!! Much Love and have a wonderful weekend!! ~RL

    1. So glad you gave this a read, Robyn. I have to say, it’s hard for me to read my own prose sometimes, with all the truths within truths. Seems like a puzzle to me. But I am glad to be able to share these words.
      Awe…thanks about the publisher. I have decided to let Source (God is what I choose) to take the wheel on that one. I seem to steer myself in the “wrong” direction too freely when I take control of matters.
      I have been told since a child about some of this journey. And as an adult, by several people (seers) that I’d be writing to heal myself and others. I’ve had visions, too. Was told, too, not to make it about profit, or money. I’ll write about those stories one day.
      I don’t know why I rambled on and on about that with you. Since you are a sea sister, and all, figured you’d understand.
      I hope to touch others and for them to touch me. To connect and bring a smile to someone’s face or comfort to heart. That to me is gift enough, and whatever else may happen will be a pleasant suprise.
      Lots of love. Sam 🙂

      1. I’m with you Sam — and am very familiar with source or source energy. I refer to God or Universe or Source …doesn’t really matter actually – all the same. Did a bit of study in the Abraham work (not sure if you are familiar) and your philosophy is right in line with their teachings… follow your bliss, your heart, and things will unfold in the perfect (hope that’s an ok word based on your post) order…. perfect timing – people, places and circumstances will line up. I’m of the same belief-system you are. My blog is strictly for joy – pleasure – healing and whatever comes of it is a blessing. Control is for those who can’t just ‘be’ and I need to just be – so will go with the flow best I can (oh and my best is good enough)!! 🙂 Back to the publisher — they will find you as you as your writing is brilliant and seems Divinely inspired…. Fascinated that you were told to expect this when you were just a child… Are you keeping up with the Kundalini? Do you do it with video guidance or classes? I need to get back to that… at least at a basic level… such powerful stuff !! Ramble to me anytime – I’m a pro at it too as you can see LOL! ~ Love & Light,

    1. He he….love your comment….goes with erotic lentils. Glad, too, you found this easily digestible…indicates you have a BIG BRAIN!!! Go Satprem! Oh, and 3 is my favorite number. Is there a reason for 33? Sunshine to you, Sam 🙂

  9. love this read!!!! need this kind of inspiration like right now…really…thanks again for sharing a great part of your thoughts…:) 🙂 🙂 🙂 go, go, go, Sam…you’re a fantastic writer 🙂 🙂 and i’m a good reader…lol…much love to you 🙂

    1. You go girl! This was a hard read. Good for you for reading it and getting it!!! You are a good reader and have a fantastic brain….he he…:) You’re so kind. Light and love to you, Sam

      1. thanks, Sam 🙂 going through your blogs again…i like reading ’em because i get inspired and they help me through these tough times (my own version of tough times) …i feel the need to just read and it really helps as my imagination takes me farther away from negative vibes that dull up my pretty ef’d up (ooppss, sorry for the inappropriate language — i really meant “messed up”) state of mind…i’m thankful that i have a very keen imagination which is a blessing…sending you love and hugs 🙂 🙂

    2. Awe, Honey, though I am sad that you are having a tough time….I so understand and am right at your side. I am honored that you can find comfort in some of my words. Love you sweetie. Hang in there. You are not alone. Never alone. And I know the hard times well. Lights of giggles coming your way in the form of chocolate!!! HUGS!!! 🙂 Sam

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